invitation wording & etiquette


When it comes to wedding invitations and their accompaniments, what to say and how to say it has left many couples wringing their hands in bewilderment. But the process doesn't need to be stressful or complicated. Remember, each piece in your wedding invitation suite is designed to communicate a specific set of information to your guests. Below are a few simple rules of thumb that will get you headed in the right direction:

The Wedding Invitation

The names of the hosts should be listed at the top of the invitation.

The invitation should include:

  • Names of the bride and groom
  • Names of the hosts (traditionally, the parents of the bride)
  • Ceremony date, day of week, time and location

The word "and" in between two names traditionally implies that those people are married. Names of unmarried hosts or guests should be stacked.

The phrase "request the honour of your presence" is typically reserved for a church or place of worship. 

If the wedding ceremony and reception are being hosted in the same location, there is no need for a reception card. At the bottom of the invitation, you can simply state "Reception to follow" or "Dinner and dancing to follow".

For the wedding collection, try not to use abbreviations. Traditionally, middle names, street information and state names are spelled out. If you do choose to list the date or any other information in a more casual manner, be consistent across all pieces of the invitation suite.


Etiquette & wording examples

BOTH PARENTS HOSTING

Mr & Mrs Orazio & Rosa Anastasi (bride's parents)

Together with

Mr & Mrs Charlie & Grace Attana (groom's parents)

request the pleasure of the company of

Invitation Guest Name

at the wedding of

Lauren & Michael

Saturday the twenty fourth of January

Two Thousand and Fifteen

at St Patrick's Church

268 Grote St, Adelaide

at two o'clock in the afternoon

Reception to follow

at John DiFede Reception Centre

10 Freebairn St, Windsor Gardens

at six o'clock in the evening

Formal attire 

Kindly respond by the first of December

Two Thousand and Fourteen

 

Traditional Gift registry

Your presence at our wedding is the greatest gift of all. However should you wish to help us celebrate with a gift, we have registered a gift list with {Registry Name}. We hope that this registry will make it more convenient for you to select something that you know we will love.

COUPLE IS HOSTING WITH FAMILY

Together with their families

Lauren & Michael

request the pleasure of your company

at their wedding

Saturday the twenty fourth of January

Two Thousand and Fifteen

at St Patrick's Church

268 Grote St, Adelaide

2:00pm

Reception to follow

at John DiFede Reception Centre

10 Freebairn St, Windsor Gardens

6:00pm

Formal attire 

Kindly respond by the first of December

Two Thousand and Fourteen

 

 

 

 

Wishing Well

If you were thinking of giving a gift,  to help us on our way, a gift of cash, would really make our day. However, if you prefer to purchase a gift, feel free to surprise us in your own way.


In the end

Whatever wording and format you choose, we suggest keeping these tips in mind:

  • Use the correct names for invited guests wherever possible. If you don't know the names of your cousin's new boyfriend, ask! Using the correct names will make people feel truly welcome and honoured.
  • Do not print "no gifts" anywhere on your invitation suite. Even if that is truly your preference, this message presumes your guests were planning to give you gifts to begin with. Again, ask your family and wedding party to help communicate this message - however, be aware that some guests may insists on giving gifts.